Tough love

Respect is what we owe
Love is what we give
Privacy is what we need

I started my video “Privacy” with those words, and they are, at least to me, true.

Love is the strongest feeling we have. Love conquers all, we humans believe. There are numerous of love quotes created by man, and most music and even films and books are about love. We humans also like to say that everybody deserves to be loved.

So love is everywhere. Literally. Yet some people can go through life with lesser love than others. And then there are some that are getting so much. Being loved with no strings attached, is probably the highest level of happiness a human can reach, the greatest gift of man. But love can also be a two-edged sword, because love can be a feeling of constant demands and a heavy burden to bear.

Loving Michael
Michael is one of those who are showered with love, often from a distance though, since most of his fans never met him in real life. But without a doubt thousands or millions do love Michael.

Throughout time, these fans have shown Michael their love in many ways. Some wrote him letters, others tried to follow him and be where ever he was, others attended as many concerts as possible and others again collected merchandise and dreamed about him from a distance. Delusions was also a way of love some turned to, and several people was believing they were married to him.

I can imagine that fan love can be a blessing and a curse at the same time.
Michael was receiving letters with nude pictures from very young girls, even though he himself was a very grown man. Women he never met, is writing about him on the Internet in sexual ways, about what they would like to do with him, if they ever got the chance. I imagine  he also has received letters of that kind as well.

For some this might have been a blessing, but not for Michael, because he is not that kind of man, and to him this is being sexually deranged.

Today fans are missing Michael and this is expressed in forums and videos in large-scale. Some have been taking the last 11 months of events very hard, and are even today in a mental state of grieve and despair. To these fans, there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel.

They NEED Michael and without him they cannot be happy. In other words; it is Michael’s fault they are unhappy now.

Only human
But you have to remember Michael is only human, and needing him for your own happiness, is a very heavy burden to place on him. Or any other human being for that matter.

Michael always loved all his fans unconditionally, never asking anything but respect from them. So maybe it is time for the fans who needs him for their own happiness, to start loving him unconditionally back.

Take the burden off his shoulders, and be responsible for your own happiness, don’t place that responsibility on anybody else. That is not fair.

What if he reads your postings on forums and watches your videos, where you give him the responsibility of making you happy?

Can you imagine how it must feel for him, having to disappoint all these fans, because he needs to get away? People he never even met..

Did you ever think of that?
Love can be selfish or unselfish. What is yours?

Video by MsDanishgirl:

  1. msdanish
    May 23, 2010 at 14:25

    Your right zilda.. No one can blame Michael for the unhappy love they feel right now… It’s not his fault they are unhappy… He can’t do anything about it now…
    To all of you unhappy people out there please get on with your life.. Enjoy the man he was, enjoy his music and remember he was there and gave all he could…

    Now don’t let your unhappy love be a burden to him….

  2. Mitzi
    May 23, 2010 at 16:11

    Unconditional love means just that, that there are NO conditions placed on the love you give or receive. Lets learn to practice that kind of love. Michael gave us, his fans ALL of his life and love. Please, remember that and be happy for all of that. Michael is not gone, he is alive in our hearts and in his music. Start to enjoy what he gave us not that he isn’t here now. God Bless you Michael, enjoy the time you have with your kids and family.

  3. May 23, 2010 at 20:20


    ★ ★ Tough love, how do you love Michael?

    my reply: ..enough to respect him. Everyone just have to. Not only me. We must be an army. A strong one. Otherwise we won’t respect nor bring ahead his message.

    Best regards,

  4. carmen_jessie21
    May 23, 2010 at 20:43

    Well,like anyone here I love Michael and yes,Iwas very sad when he suposed to die.I still am but it is not his fault I am unhappy.I’ve had my fantasy too(not sexual!):I’ve allways wished for meeting him and offering him my friendship.I want to tell him:”just call my name and I’ll be there” but it is nothing sexuall here,it is a pure love and loyality and friendship and the need to help him and protect him as much as I can.I know I’ll never meet him,but he is not responsible for that.I ‘ll find consolation in his legacy wich is very important and must be preserved.I’ll allways love him and sometimes I take the liberty of dreaming….

  5. evamj
    May 27, 2010 at 10:40

    Yes your right. Michael is just like you and me and like us he needs his privacy. And I hope now he can finally have that.

  6. the arabian nights
    May 27, 2010 at 17:36

    you are right, that mike never blamed us for all that happened he never turned and said that we were to blame for his court case, or the tabloid newspapers even though we read and bought them

    even through those awful hours he never showed any sign or attached any blame

    he came into the world and as a baby without any choice in the matter he was pushed forth

    you have to respect the way he carried himself throughout his life but is it wrong to have empathy – because thats what i feel

  7. June 2, 2010 at 13:13

    who knows Michael knows his noble soul, his shyness, his reserve … when I see comments and videos of him with sexual references I think about how embarrassing it can feel … … Michael is not the sort a man … he gets excited before the eyes of a child … that should say something? stick to the wonderful person that he is … and do not forget his three children for him … I am the light of her eyes … not injured the dignity of michael! I love you michael

  8. SB
    June 7, 2010 at 21:21

    You are sooooooo right. He is everything all of you have said, and more. I’ll continue to pray for those beautiful kids. I’ll pray for Michael in case he needs it. If he’s with the Lord he doesn’t need our prayers anymore-he’s happier than we can imagine.
    We can only look forward to being with him again, and with our wonderful Lord.

  9. SB
    June 7, 2010 at 21:46

    I just commented above and will hold to it. However The videos re stopping the hoax hunt are credited as belonging to SONY! You have been the biggest vultures picking at Micharl’s bones for so many years!! Why do you want the hoax hunt stopped-so that your corp. can send professionals out there-all over the world-to try to find him?? And the amateurs won’t be in your way, or your people might be caught on camera by a hoax investigator.
    On second thought thought I will not quit following hoaxers!! Not until I KNOW MJ himself wants it stopped!! I will never trust SONY to have his best interesta at heart-if they have a heart!! This will probably will not get past the moderator but I pray it does!!!!!

    • June 7, 2010 at 21:55

      What? What video are you talking about? Please post the title of the video or a link.

  10. PaleRider
    June 23, 2010 at 07:08

    Awwww, thats so very touching. I imagine it’s also a heavy burden to bear to have to rake in all that cash from those crazy fans too, isn’t it? Like he said himself; “it’s just good business”. Where can I send a check to him so he’ll feel more “loved”?

  11. the arabian nights
    June 24, 2010 at 18:07

    on reading many sites i have accepted that many simply love mike, as if he was a potential boyfriend or lover material. i have not felt able to ask why, because i am not a mj fan, life long and all classifications they place on a true fan or hoax believer, i was an outsider. they really feel they have some closeness to a man that few have met. why is this. they speak about him on open twitter accounts and on forums as if he was the love of their lives, as if he was their boyfriend or husband, there seems to be some kind of ownership, i dont know why this has occurred in their lives and how they can be involved in a man whom they will never know and will never be emotionally or physically close to. this to me is very scary.

  12. SB
    June 24, 2010 at 20:09

    You’re right-it is scary! If I could explain it to you I would. He has something that emanates from his being that is so sweet, gentle, loving, kind, giving and beautiful that can’t be explained if you don’t sense it yourself.

    I miss him so very much and know I would never have met him. I grieve over all the lies and cruelty that he went through and stayed the same wonderful person. He had more love in his heart than anybody else I’ve ever seen!

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