Tough love

Respect is what we owe
Love is what we give
Privacy is what we need

I started my video “Privacy” with those words, and they are, at least to me, true.

Love is the strongest feeling we have. Love conquers all, we humans believe. There are numerous of love quotes created by man, and most music and even films and books are about love. We humans also like to say that everybody deserves to be loved.

So love is everywhere. Literally. Yet some people can go through life with lesser love than others. And then there are some that are getting so much. Being loved with no strings attached, is probably the highest level of happiness a human can reach, the greatest gift of man. But love can also be a two-edged sword, because love can be a feeling of constant demands and a heavy burden to bear.

Loving Michael
Michael is one of those who are showered with love, often from a distance though, since most of his fans never met him in real life. But without a doubt thousands or millions do love Michael.

Throughout time, these fans have shown Michael their love in many ways. Some wrote him letters, others tried to follow him and be where ever he was, others attended as many concerts as possible and others again collected merchandise and dreamed about him from a distance. Delusions was also a way of love some turned to, and several people was believing they were married to him.

I can imagine that fan love can be a blessing and a curse at the same time.
Michael was receiving letters with nude pictures from very young girls, even though he himself was a very grown man. Women he never met, is writing about him on the Internet in sexual ways, about what they would like to do with him, if they ever got the chance. I imagine  he also has received letters of that kind as well.

For some this might have been a blessing, but not for Michael, because he is not that kind of man, and to him this is being sexually deranged.

Today fans are missing Michael and this is expressed in forums and videos in large-scale. Some have been taking the last 11 months of events very hard, and are even today in a mental state of grieve and despair. To these fans, there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel.

They NEED Michael and without him they cannot be happy. In other words; it is Michael’s fault they are unhappy now.

Only human
But you have to remember Michael is only human, and needing him for your own happiness, is a very heavy burden to place on him. Or any other human being for that matter.

Michael always loved all his fans unconditionally, never asking anything but respect from them. So maybe it is time for the fans who needs him for their own happiness, to start loving him unconditionally back.

Take the burden off his shoulders, and be responsible for your own happiness, don’t place that responsibility on anybody else. That is not fair.

What if he reads your postings on forums and watches your videos, where you give him the responsibility of making you happy?

Can you imagine how it must feel for him, having to disappoint all these fans, because he needs to get away? People he never even met..

Did you ever think of that?
Love can be selfish or unselfish. What is yours?

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