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Have a little dignity

Everybody has fantasies. We all fantasize sometimes about winning the lottery and then buying a big house or a brand new car or maybe a 2nd house abroad, we are fantasizing about a big bank account or about someone you like very much. There is nothing wrong with that, we all do it.

But fantasizing about someone and keeping it to yourself or to write stories about it, making videos and putting them on You Tube is a whole different story. I think it is very disturbing that there are so many videos out there about Michael’s sexuality explicit.
A lot of these videos are made by girls, who are only 13, 14 years old (young). And those who watch these videos aren’t much older than that, or are even younger. Most of the time the video title says it all, you don’t need to watch the videos to know what they are about.

When you are that young, you shouldn’t even be thinking about having sex and especially not with a man who could easily have been your father. That is disturbing! Then there are people who like to write stories. There is nothing wrong with writing stories, but when you in detail describes sexual acts between Michael and a fan or Lisa Marie Presley, then you are so out of line!!!
This is very disrespectful towards Michael and to the ones who you are writing about! A lot of these stories are on You Tube, where people are making groups, to tell each other trough these stories about their fantasies.

The videos typically shows Michael dancing in slow motion, so there are no doubt about what you need to see. But you see, this is taken out of context, because played in normal speed, there are no sexual moves, just dancing.
But there are also web sites on the internet, that goes very far.

We have a Dutch network called Hyves. It’s like a kind of Facebook but it’s only for The Netherlands, not worldwide. On Hyves you can create your own page, but also start groups and there are a lot of MJ fan sites with great and interesting topics, but also topics where very young girls are writing down stuff about their fantasies.

Did you all forget about the trials that Michael had to go trough?

Did you forget how much this was hurting him and how devastating this was for him?! Even now, there are a lot of people who believe, that Michael was guilty of doing those things to young children. We all know it wasn’t true, but when you think about it, is it then okay that these kids are writing about having sex with him, or how he does it with somebody else, or making videos, who are sexually explicit? I think we all agree that Michael is/was a very handsome man, no doubt about that. But if you fantasize keep it to yourself, out of respect for Michael, but also for your own dignity.

Michael is a very private person, and this sexual content is not appealing to him at all. This is not a compliment to him. You are displaying him in a disturbed and disrespectful way.
Think about your actions, imagine that it is YOU in these video’s or stories…..Would you be pleased?? Think about it because you never know who reads it or watches them.


  1. carmen_jessie21
    May 26, 2010 at 20:42

    That’s right!We have to pay respect to others and ourselves.All these videos and comments with sexual implications denote the absence of common sense,respect and dignity.Like you said,fantasize is OK but keep it to yourself.Sadly,some people think it’s “cool” to post things with sexual tint wich implicate Michael.I’m very sorry for them and their disrespectful behavior.

  2. OfftheWall
    May 26, 2010 at 22:01


  3. bighaIr1
    May 27, 2010 at 05:20

    BEAUTIFULLY done Danny ! BRAVO to you ! hugs and kisses

  4. evamj
    May 27, 2010 at 10:35

    Very true Dan!

  5. the arabian nights
    May 29, 2010 at 13:26

    very true

  6. elizabeth- cawobeth
    May 29, 2010 at 17:12

    Someone needed to speak on this so, thank you for being the one, Dan.
    I have found this to be disturbing. Certainly Michael has stirred many an imagination & he has shown he cares to, though I hardly think he meant to entice young girls to sex. “I feel compelled to do it, to give people some sense of escapism, a treat to the eye and ear. I think it’s the reason I’m here.” MJ
    To me, Michael simply IS love; every song he’s ever sang has to do with love.
    He has even freed much of his pain by facing & singing about what isn’t love.
    And when he has sung about sexual love, the songs have been about the deception(s) of sex as love.
    Good to see my youtube friends here. I love you…
    Love, love…with Michael’s light of love…

  7. Ελε
    June 2, 2010 at 21:03

    Can’t agree more with you…
    It’s disgusting! Give some respect to this man!
    And some girls talk bad about his relationships and marriages…
    Plz mercy…

  8. Paige
    June 10, 2010 at 08:37

    ok i’m sorry. i agree that they should keep it to themselves, and i won’t lie. im a 15 year old girl, and i will admit that i think Michael Jackson is a big fine piece of sexy pie. but i don’t put it out in the open, lol honestly i don’t even have fantasies. but realize that it’s completely natural to have fantasies like this. you can’t honestly sit there and tell me that you have never fantasized about an older male/female(can’t tell if you’re male or female. sorry. just don’t know.) actor/singer/entertainer. Maybe when you were younger, and thought a certain actor was just the hottest thing around and you were thinking how much you wanted him? I have about Johnny Depp before. and he’s 32 years older then i am(sheesh he does NOT look like a 47 year old). but thats all they’re doing. its called being a teenager. but i do agree; stuff like that should stay in a journal or something that will not be shown to the public. but there was a part in there that made it seem like its wrong to have any fantasies at all about him. and thats what i dont like. so don’t scold them for dreaming. even though its, inappropriate.

    • livinofthewall
      June 10, 2010 at 09:22

      I think you misunderstood me a little Paige…I do say that it is only human and natural to fantasize, we all do it and it’s ok. BUT I don’t think that it is ok to make sexual intented video’s about it or write stories ,who will go very far btw, and then put it on the internet for everybody to see. I always ask myself what would I do if it was me, would I be the character in those video’s..Hmmmmm I don’t think so. What when his children are gonna go on the internet and search what a grea legecy their dad left us..then these video’s will pop up too. A lot of these video’s contain interviews with Michael and the ones who made the video asks a question and then put something of that interview in there as an answer. So something totally innocent becomes sexual…I made a video too, maybe you understand it better then…http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H6_yvMEt5vk
      It’s all about privacy Paige, that’s one of the things we are fighting for.

  9. Paige
    June 12, 2010 at 09:51

    i agreed about the making it public part. but it was this: “When you are that young, you shouldn’t even be thinking about having sex and especially not with a man who could easily have been your father. That is disturbing! Then there are people who like to write stories” that really got me upset. those 13 and 14 year old girls are just dreaming. i was just 14 last year and i know that i had, heated dreams between me and a certain 47 year old hot actor (Johnny Depp). i really don’t think they mean any harm at all. and yea i dont think it’s really something Prince, Paris or Blanket would want to see, but i think by now at least Prince and Paris have realized that it’s a part of their life. Crazy ass fans trying to get a piece of their dad. and yes i have seen plenty of videos like that and it makes me sick.

    now. I will say this. It’s not an issue of Michael’s privacy. it’s an issue of Michael being an international icon who has given many girls a very good dream/daydream. It’s an issue of girls who need to keep their very good dreams private. and i’ll check it out.

    Ok so just did. i agree. its disrespectful. but the most you can do is report most of this. i was just maybe one year old when Michael went through the first trial. 11 for the second. i didn’t know much about it until last summer. no i didn’t become a huge fan just because he died. But unless one of those titles said that they actually did “ride MJ’s pony” (seriously what kind of title is that?), this really has nothing to do with the trials because it’s not illegal.

    don’t get me wrong. i want them to leave it to themselves too.

  10. livinofthewall
    June 12, 2010 at 23:00

    Sorry Paige but I do think it’s very disturbing when you are that young and fantasize and write these things. When I was that age I fantasized about holding hands and sneaky kisses not about “fucking my brains out” or “wanna be penetrated real hard and have a Mikegasm”. I’m very sorry to be so direct but this is what these girls write on the internet and I can go even further then this. I really don’t think this is very flattering and I don’t think that Michael is. The charges were sexual molestation of children that age and now these kids want to have “this” with him….i’m sorry bad..very bad…
    And that title does excist, we do research before we write these blogs.

  11. Paige
    June 12, 2010 at 23:55

    It is disturbing. I totally agree with that. But times have changed. Since you’re going on that it’s young girls doing this, i’m gonna guess you’re maybe in your thirty’s or forty’s. But times have changed majorly since your childhood if thats the case. Parents of kids today grew up during a time where drugs and sex were everything. So it’s being passed down. Mikegasm….did you come up with that? cuz as wrong as it is, it’s good. wait. yea you said these girls. In some of these girls minds though, they think it is flattering. They think that by telling someone they want to do them that means that they are something real special. And yea. i know about the charges. but Having sexual fantasies is totally different from molesting children (yes i know that Michael was proven not guilty and i am very happy about that), so really, the charges really have nothing to do with it unless one of those girls actually say “hey i rode Michael’s pony”. which brings me to: i didn’t mean that you made the title up on your own. im simply thinking that is the sickest and weirdest title ever. i mean i’ve heard some pretty sick and weird ones, but this one takes the cake.

    • livinofthewall
      June 13, 2010 at 00:07

      i didn’t make the “Mikegasm”…and i’m 36 and have 2 daughters. I know the times have changed but that doesn’t mean that you have to place such disrespectful titles or stories out there for everbody to read, that’s why i’m saying write it in your journal or talk to your friends but don’t put it on the internet for the whole world to see, have a little dignaty. I hope I can raise my girls the same as my parents did with me and be a little more respectful to others and themselfs

  12. Paige
    June 13, 2010 at 00:38

    Well you seem to have good views and values, so i do too. i hate the way teenagers are today. AND I AM ONE. sheesh. i hate it. being part of a stereotype that most people hate….and i said the rest of that in my first post.

    • June 13, 2010 at 00:43

      Luckily you outgrow the teenage period and get wiser in time..;) You sound smart though..
      But most of the younger fans seems to forget Michael is past the 50’s. He don’t belong to the generation that are amused by these public fantasies.

  13. Paige
    June 13, 2010 at 00:48

    Lol, we forget he’s past 50 because most of us are still stuck on Thriller where he was……..24 or 25. But i’ve expanded and got into some of his later work, and i have realized that he is 50. but i mean its not hard to think he’s still that 25 year old man turned legend.

  14. June 13, 2010 at 13:50

    I almost choked in my morning coffee today.

    In my Twitter, there was a DM for me:
    “Hi Zilda, Iff MJ wanteddd tewww havee sex *wink wink** withouutt aa conddoom..wulddd ye ” and then there was a link to a poll.

    The sender of this DM and maker of the poll is 13 years old.. Which means she almost same age as his own children.

    • billiejean61
      June 13, 2010 at 13:57

      Omg! Thats so sick…

  15. msdanish
    June 13, 2010 at 13:54

    O M G we are talking about a grown man here… He is old enough to be her father.. Shes the same age as MJs oldest… This is VERY disturbing and i’m shocked to see a 13 year old girl having fantasies like this…
    Where are this girls parents????

  16. Pat
    June 13, 2010 at 17:50

    This is all very sick! I don’t care how old you are or how times have changed, girls this age behaving the way they are, is wrong!

  17. ralu
    June 13, 2010 at 18:31

    How explicit is Michael?
    Just let them be, it’s like the XXI century …
    You are totally exaggerating … You think you see Michael for who he really is? Well, I don’t think you do, cause then you wouldn’t judge other people.
    How can you love when you’re judging?
    I’m not saying that they are right, just pointing the finger is not loving and is totally not helping anyone, it puts more anger out there.
    Nice work! Think again what are you doing?
    Then again I really don’t judge you either. I love you and them the same, so please, let’s try to help build not destroy the world.

    Just trying to love is enough!

  18. livinofthewall
    June 13, 2010 at 22:18

    In my dictionary love isn’t putting stories and video’s on internet who are extremely sexual explicet. Love is helping other people who can’t speak up for themselfs!

  19. Paige
    June 15, 2010 at 09:02

    Zilda, i agree. thats just plain wrong.

    for the love of God. there you go again. Damning us to hell for fantasizing msdanish. the parents really have nothing to do with it most of the time. as soon as us teenagers go to school or hang out with friends we are exposed to it. its a choice of picking the right friends.

    Pat, these girls are not necessarily going out and having sex just because they write sick stories. it just means that they have sick minds for sharing it with the world.

    THANK YOU RALU. someone who i finally agree with.

    finally, love has changed meanings in this time too. It is just tossed around like its nothing now, so it has no real meaning. i tell my friends i love them all the time, but that’s different. To most teenagers, the ultimate sign of love is giving it up.

    if you havent noticed, i was extremely pissed off by the last few comments. please dont take any of these things personally, but take them seriously.

  20. Paige
    June 15, 2010 at 09:05

    and to me, btw, love is always thinking about a person, being there for them, having eyes only for them no matter what they look like. loving them for whats on the inside. not wanting the perfect person, but finding the perfect person for you. thats what love is to me….dont see how you got it was helping people who cant speak for themselves. i mean i bet its part of it, but not the whole thing.

    • June 15, 2010 at 09:19

      @Paige I agree with you. Sex and love is not neccesarily the same.

  21. msdanish
    June 15, 2010 at 10:46

    Damning us to hell for fantasizing msdanish. the parents really have nothing to do with it most of the time. as soon as us teenagers go to school or hang out with friends we are exposed to it. its a choice of picking the right friends.

    I know Paige.. But when i was in my teens we didn’t have a computer.. Today every teenager or even kids younger than that have a computer.. I will say that when my son get a computer when hes old enough I wil keep an eye on him.. And you’re right parents can’t control everything but with the technology we have today the least we as parents can do it to check up on our kids once a while..

  22. livinofthewall
    June 15, 2010 at 11:59

    You are right Paige I see it the same as you do only in this case it’s about speaking up for somebody who can’t do it himself. And nobody is damning you for fantasizing,I just want to say with the blog and video keep it to yourself that’s all.

  23. Paige
    June 15, 2010 at 15:06

    sigh, i know she wasn’t damning us, just over-exaggerated.

    msdanish, im sorry if i sounded harsh…i wrote that at like 1 in the morning and im just not a morning person. but i’d watch out with your son. when he’s in the house you can control what he does on a computer or what he watches on tv. but say he goes to a friends house, a friend whos hormones are going crazy. there are free porn sites out there that can expose your son to that. and another friends house who’s parents are drinking and smoking, cussing, just the works. so i’d just watch out. if he acts differently when he comes home, i’d keep him away from those friends or at least their family depending on who’s doing it. it’s happened with my brother. right now it’s only an attitude problem, but the way its going, it’ll get worse.

    like i said before. i was tired when i wrote that and when im tired it is every easy to tick me off. that being said, i did mean it all, but i think i probably could have said it nicer.

    Honestly though, i think we should really just leave it alone, or just report it because once on the internet, pretty much always on the internet. But yea…i think they should just keep it to themselves because no one else wants to see it. they just dont realize it.

    R.I.P MJ. even if you’re not dead, rest in peace.

  24. September 13, 2011 at 21:10

    ohh i didn’t know about this sort of videos, i found this really unrespectful !!!
    i can’t believe yooung girls can do this ! at 13 yo nobody think about sex !
    they can’t imagine how they hurt others doing this !
    and it’s so .. a private thing !

    why people can’t leave him alone, respect his privacy and just enjoy the music !

    dead or alive, you are now in a better place
    much love for you michael ❤

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